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For me Writing is like an ointment. Not everytime can you be happy with everything in Life and again, Not everytime can you be Expressive about it to others . Writing is just like Flow of the Emotions so it dont remain unexpressed and Killing. Let it flow and stay Relaxed.
New Ideas and Suggestions are most welcomed 😊
Brinda
There are certain changes in life that we don’t notice while they are happening. We only realise them when we look back and think, “I wasn’t like this before.”
There was a time when I thought moving away from home was simply about moving to another city.
Get a job. Build a career. Become independent.
Live life on my own terms.
One day, I realised I was handling things that I would have once depended on someone else for.
Another day, I realised I wasn’t reacting to people the way I used to. And sometimes, I simply realised that I had become a different person.
Here are a few things living away from home has taught me.
I became more confident in myself
When you live away from home, you don’t always have someone to call when something goes wrong.
You have to figure things out.
You make decisions.
You solve problems.
You make mistakes.
And then you figure them out again.
Every time I handled something on my own, I trusted myself a little more.I realised that confidence doesn’t always come from knowing what to do. Sometimes, it comes from knowing that even if I don’t know what to do, I’ll figure it out.
The outside world gave me a reality check
At home, I was surrounded by people who cared about me. Outside, I realised that not everyone will. There isn’t always sympathy. There isn’t always empathy. And not everyone is genuinely interested in knowing what I am going through.
It sounds harsh, but I think it is an important thing to learn. It taught me not to expect the same emotional investment from everyone.
And more importantly, it taught me to recognise and value the people who genuinely care.
Life humbled me differently
There were many moments when I wished someone would simply come and fix things for me.
But real independence never comes without responsibilities. I had to handle my own health , fears, anger, problems and decisions.
That is when I realised that some of the biggest barriers in my life were not created by other people. They were created by my own overthinking and self-doubt. And I had to break those barriers myself.
I started taking myself more seriously
When you live independently, life doesn’t allow you to ignore yourself for too long.
Your emotional imbalance screams to you. Your physical health matters. Your money matters. Your work matters. Your time matters.
And suddenly, managing yourself becomes a responsibility.
I learnt that taking care of myself cannot always be something I will do “once things settle down.” Because life doesn’t really settle down.
There will always be something. So I have to learn to take care of myself while life is happening.
I started missing people I unknowingly took for granted
This was unexpected. When people are always around, their presence can feel ordinary.
You know your family is there. You know your friends are nearby. You know someone will probably check on you. But distance changes that.
I started missing the people who had always been there for me. And I realised how much of their care I had taken for granted simply because it was always available. Distance taught me to appreciate people differently.
I became more protective of my peace
This is probably one of my biggest changes.
Earlier, I could spend a lot of energy thinking about what someone said, why someone behaved a certain way, or whether I should respond to something.
Now I ask myself: “Is this really worth disturbing my peace?”
Not every disagreement needs my energy.
Not every person needs an explanation.
Not every battle needs to be fought.
I am learning that protecting my peace doesn’t mean I don’t care. It means I have understood that my energy is very limited and not every trigger deserves that.
I became more comfortable with myself
This is my favourite part of growing up.
When you spend enough time alone, you start discovering yourself. You find new interests and skills. You start thinking differently. You realise that you don’t always need people around you to feel okay.
For me, solitude slowly became less about feeling alone and more about having space to hear my own thoughts. And somewhere in that space, I started seeing myself better.
I learnt that not every battle is worth fighting
Once you move out, you really know what responsibilities look like. And when you choose to be responsible and take those responsibilities, your maturity evolves. The older I get, the more I understand people. Everyone has their own nature, their own experiences and their own way of dealing with life. I don’t need to understand everyone. I don’t need to change everyone.
And I definitely don’t need to fight every battle.
Some things are worth standing up for. Some things are simply worth letting go. Knowing the difference has brought me more peace than I expected.
Moving away from home changed many things for me.
It made me more independent.
It made me more confident.
It made me miss my family.
It made me more careful about the people I trust.
It made me more protective of my mental peace.
But most importantly, it made me realise that I am capable of much more than I thought.
Definately, I haven’t become someone who doesn’t need anyone.
But this experience made me someone who knows:
“I can take care of myself, and I can still love, need and value the people I have in my life.”
Moving away from home didn’t make me lose my roots. It simply gave me enough distance to understand their values and enough space to discover myself.
It has been about three months since I got married.
And honestly, I think I am only now beginning to understand what people mean when they say, “Marriage changes your life.”
I won’t hype it but rather be very honest.
Nothing dramatic necessarily happens overnight.
But suddenly, so many small things are different.
You are in a different house. There are different routines, habits, and ways of doing things.
There is a new family to understand, and a new family that is also trying to understand you.
And surprisingly, even your relationship with the person you married changes in a way you cannot completely anticipate before marriage.
Because before marriage, you are two people in love but after marriage you are two people trying to build a life.
I am still very new to all of this and trying to figure things out myself. But these three months have made me think about a few things very deeply.
I am understanding what adjustment really means
Before marriage, I used to hear my close friends around me talk about how difficult it can be for a woman to move into a new family. I understood it in theory but I didn’t think I truly understood it until I experienced my own version of it.
You suddenly find yourself surrounded by people who have lived together for decades having their own habits, own ways of communicating, own expectations, own understanding of what is normal. And then there is you—with your own identity, your own habits, your own upbringing, your own way of thinking and your own definition of what feels comfortable. Nobody is necessarily wrong. But everybody is different. And that difference takes time to understand.
I have realised that even when the change is good, change can still be difficult. A new home can be beautiful and still feel unfamiliar. A new family can be loving and still take time to understand.
A new life can be something you wanted and still requires adjustment.
I think we sometimes forget that. We expect ourselves to immediately settle into a new life simply because it is a happy one. But happiness and adjustment can exist together.
And interestingly with everything else in the background, you begin to discover how that person you fell in love with behaves
When they are tired.
When they are stressed.
When they disagree with you.
When they don’t understand you.
When you don’t understand them.
And yes, it’s a “discovery“. You discover each other’s habits, triggers, expectations, insecurities and ways of dealing with difficult situations.
And slowly, the relationship moves from “I love you” to something much bigger: “How are we going to live this life together?”
I think that is where the real partnership begins.
And for that, I have realised, communication matters enormously.
Transparent communication is not an option
There is something powerful about being able to tell your partner what you are feeling, what you need, what hurt you, what you are afraid of and even what you are struggling to understand.
I remember being told by people around me that I shouldn’t tell my partner everything. That there are certain things one should keep to oneself.
I now feel that this can be some of the most misguided advice we give to people entering a marriage.
Of course, transparency does not mean saying every thought impulsively or communicating without sensitivity. It means creating a relationship where both people feel safe enough to be honest. I feel what is the point of marriage where we can’t be vulnerable to each other.
Because if you cannot communicate your difficult emotions with the person you are building your life with, then where will you learn to face those difficulties together?
I feel marriage is about becoming strong enough as a couple to have those conversations and come through them together.
For me, openness and transparency have become the foundation of that strength of me as an individual as well.
Not making everyone happy.is not disability
This one has been difficult for me. I have always had this tendency to think about how other people are feeling. Are they okay? Did I do enough? Could I have adjusted a little more? Could I have made things easier? Could I have handled something differently? And somewhere in all of that, I realised that it is very easy to forget yourself.
Especially as a woman. we are often taught—sometimes very subtly—that being a good wife, daughter-in-law, daughter, sister or partner means constantly adjusting to everyone else’s needs.
But then after a point I understood a limitation coming up in a brutal way which was basically my inner self screaming “Where do my needs go?” And most importantly.” It is not selfish or cruel to have self needs. Period!!”
I am learning that taking care of myself is not selfish. At the end of the day, nothing can be poured out from an empty cup. And perhaps I don’t need to.
Having healthy boundaries are healthier then you know
Earlier, I sometimes associated boundaries with being rigid and not adjusting or saying no. But fortunately my understanding broadened up with time
A boundary can simply mean knowing where you end and where another person begins.
Knowing what you can give and where giving can cost you. Knowing when an adjustment feels like love and when it starts feeling like you are compromising a part of yourself just to keep the peace.
I don’t think marriage should mean that one person keeps adjusting while the other keeps receiving those adjustments. I think both people need to learn each other and make space.
Because there is a difference between adjusting for someone and disappearing for someone.
I am also learning that marriage is not about creating a life where nobody is ever unhappy.
That is impossible.
I am learning to normalise , disagreements and misunderstandings. There will be days when you don’t get each other. There will be moments when somebody is disappointed. And that’s okay. My partner cannot make me happy every single day. And neither of us should have to carry that responsibility.
What is most important is an ability to create an environment where we can talk about what is making us unhappy, where we can listen.
repair and mostly important where we can try again.
And perhaps this is the biggest thing I am learning.
Marriage does require adjustment. But adjustment should not mean losing yourself.
You can learn a new family’s ways without forgetting your own.
You can love your partner deeply without making them responsible for your entire happiness.
You can care about everyone’s feelings without taking responsibility for everyone’s emotions.
You can compromise without constantly compromising yourself.
You can build a life with someone without giving up the person you were before you met them.
I am only three months into this journey.
I am sure there is so much more I will understand five years from now that I cannot possibly understand today.
Maybe I will look back at this article and smile at how much I thought I knew.
But right now, this is what marriage is teaching me:
You don’t enter marriage knowing how to do it.
You enter it knowing that you love someone, and then you slowly learn how to live, grow, communicate, adjust and become a team.
And maybe the goal isn’t to become one person.
Maybe it is to create a relationship where two people can remain themselves while building something that belongs to both of them.
That, I think, is the kind of marriage I want to keep learning how to build.
Me to God- Why are you giving me thunder strokes from all areas of life ? What have I done wrong ? And even if I have committed mistakes, to what extent was that to get this level of punishment. I don’t deserve this replication for doing no wrong.
God – Am making you strong.
Me- I don’t want to be strong. And if you really want to make me strong, there could be some decent ways to do so. Why this torture?
God- Its just a path. You’ll reach where you must reach. The path is rough but that’s how you will develop thick skin, and that’s important to succeed.
Me – I understand, but what if I get injured bad and stop walking permanently?
God- You notice the stones and walk carefully. Don’t try to kick them. Make your way from the sides.
Me – There are lot of small pebbles causing nodular. That hurts bad.
God- Put a bandage and continue walking. It will heal by itself. Keep walking in the direction given to you. Stones and pebbles are going to stay where they are, but you don’t have to.
Me- It’s paining hard.
God- If your entire focus is on next step, then there won’t be any pain left to focus on.
Me – You promise me I’ll be fine and happy soon ?
God- You promise me you’ll trust me and respect my process ?
Me- I’ll try.
God- I do.
Almost after ages, I went for trekking to one of the beautiful place in Gujarat. For the first time in my life I went for day trip with all strangers, yes all strangers. Fortunately I grabbed an opportunity to meet new people, explore different mindsets and enthusiasm. Trekking is normal thing so I would not write blog on trekking but I am writing this blog to share minute details hitting me internally during this trip.
Not treating Sunday as Sunday, with all the preparations done, I left for trek early morning at 5:30 am. Reaching to the point, interacting with others and introducing myself to them I spoke this about myself- “Hi, I am Brinda. I am Lawyer and CS by Profession and I am currently working in blah blah field” and the reaction I got from almost everyone was, “Oh wow, that’s great.”
These words forced me for an introspection within myself- (Me to Myself)
“WTF Brinda, are you even Happy with your Profession?”
Ans- No.
“Then why would you introduce yourself with that ????”
Ans- COZ THAT SOUNDS GOOD.
“Fair Reason?”
Ans- No.
“Is your Academics your Identity?”
Ans- Nooooooo. I will never want that.
“Then why would you introduce yourself that way ????”
After the mini talk I had with myself, I allowed my tongue to coordinate with my head and speak again, “Well, Honestly it is not as wow as it sounds. Am generally drained off end of every day.”
Most of the times we speak with the mind on what will sound more impressive rather what we intend to speak. But this is so much in our system that we lose control over our intentions and just speak in flow.
While in base camp having breakfast and talking and observing 25-30 strangers I observed how every single personality was behaving differently. One being sweet talker, other being influencer, one being attention seeker, another being solemnly and one balancing being introvert and extrovert at the same time (ofcourse Me). But one common thing amongst all, all seeking happiness.
After the trek started and as everyone was climbing the hills I mean some crawling in humanly manner, some enjoying the nature, some left behind in selfiees and some struggling to ask others click their pictures, it felt like how slowly everyone were opening up to their self.
After few hours, singing tired but in melody to climb high was fun. How unintentionally every stranger was helping every other stranger and motivating to keep going. From singing to being open enough to start dancing in between made me meet myself. How I did not even had single thought of being judged and be myself completely which lead to others too letting their feet flow.
Lesson;- NO ONE ELSE IS JUDGING YOU EXCEPT YOU YOURSELF.
After climbing for hours and looking around the beautiful view, I sat quiet and still all lost in the nature. All I was able to see, feel and sense was the beautiful scenery in front of my eyes, the cold sooth wind on my face and sounds of wind and light rains. I was able to feel the beauty from my eyes till my heart and soul. I was at peace. The peace I was missing unknowingly. The peace was all being in myself. I never knew the peace was within me.
Lesson:- Spend sometime with yourself. You are the solution to your problems.
Amongst 25-30 people, we were 6-7 people sitting silently and enjoying the beauty around (Others went to some spot to make reels and click pictures). In such silence, one guy started talking about how he had met a particular person whose passion was to sell momos on the mountains after leaving his IT job, reason being mountains and food gave him joy and satisfaction. We all were quietly listening. I never when did we started having deep life conversations from just being strangers. It felt so good. You experience people in such trips.
Lesson- Move Out. You will attract like minded people.
Now comes the toughest part of the whole trip…..”Stepping Down the mountain”. I was bit scared but even worst was, my legs had lost all strength. It was 2hrs or more trek to reach down the surface. The rains added the toughness. I somehow was managing to take small steps so that I don’t fall but eventually I did. Thanks to my rescue two people came and I did not slide. Later then, one of the group member was constantly helping me. After somewhile the guide came and the initial fellow left (ofcourse he was bit bored as I was taking long). Through out till I reached the base camp I had four people to my support simultaneously. I almost talked about career and personal life with all which was super fun. Everyone had different story to share. After some while I was all alone. I did not stop anywhere though, but as I wasn’t able to walk quick, I was alone. I kept on walking and waking , though without any energy and strength. That’s when I realized , “No matter how good people are, at some everyone will care about themselves and you have to take care of yourself. At some point you have to walk alone” (Sab apna apna dekhlo)
YOU KNOW WHAT, TREKKING IS NOT ONLY PHYSICAL ACTIVITY BUT ALSO MENTAL ACTIVITY;
made some moments
lived few moments
realized some important aspects within moments
surrendered to moments
Environment- trees, plants, oils, air, soil….everything we are blessed through Nature. You know, in ancient centuries people practiced worshiping these elements of nature, reason being no one can survive without these elements. Bowing to the nature was considered as gesture of gratitude towards God (nature) for survival of every living species.
Nature, i.e. creators’ creation has got a lot to teach us.
When the tree was at its first stage as seedling it was buried under the ground with an intention of its growth, with an intention that it will grow someday and will provide other living-kind with everything best it has got to serve or is capable enough to serve like shelter, wood, flowers, oxygen, and what all not.
Now what if that particular seedling choose not to grow with the fear of external calamities it might face; fear of being cut-off alive, fear of falling, fear of cyclone, soil erosion or global warming overall. What if seed does not grow and remains seedling as it is safer option. But will that be Right? Now think with the same conditioning as human being. We tend to stay where we are comfortable but that’s not the purpose where we are meant to exist for. The fear of growth or fear of failure is what we might be scared of but if those trees wont had grown it won’t had protected the environment as seedling. This way even we as human have to grow over comfort zone to serve.
Today we are Alive to Serve Some Purpose Today and Tomorrow.
Why are we not growing even after all the credible knowledge?
Conditional Growth;
As the title to this blog speaks, “Nature is Silent but Best Teacher”; this too will be explained by nature itself. Take any fruit or vegetable, we humans are surviving on these edibles. Food being such important part for our existence that its scarcity will cause famine in whole world.
Now imagine, what if the fruit denies to grow with a condition that its market value should be equivalent to the selling price of diamond? No one will deny to the fact that if incase there is rarity in diamonds or any other precious stones it might create problem on environmental level but won[t do any considerable difference on question of personal existence. But still what if the fruit starts valuing itself as unwanted or unfortunate because its market value is not equivalent to precious stones or what if the fruit conditions to grow only with good market value? Exactly this is Conditional growth.
Being conditional is the most foolish scam we do to our-self. Wont being conditional be direct insult of creator?
Every creation of god has its own purpose to serve. We individually are just a dot in whole universe but every dot has its own different space to set and its own part to play. Not every purpose can be judged or understood by external acceptance or neither can be materialized.
What I learnt, felt, understood and have build a belief is; “You are meant for some purpose and your duty is to serve that purpose irrelevant of whatever!”
We say everything happens for the reason, which is reasonably true. We say every occurrence of event either teaches us the lesson or gives us joy which again is true. What we realise, we understand. What we understand becomes the ground of our decision making. The hard times force us to change beyond comfort level. The lessons we learn make us adapt new habits, new perspectives and better thinking patten.
But even after levels of understanding we loose the track. The area where we sometimes miss the ball is “lack of hold on the learnings”. It doesn’t mean, we change again to the older version, but we definitely miss to utilise the lessons from hard times appropriately.
There are 3types of people in this world;
1- The first being the one who can’t change because they never realised the pain or never thought of the reason hidden behind it. Without realisations there are no lessons. So we can say, they are ignorant.Fair enough.
2- Second category is such people who have knowledge of all, who have thought over all, understood all, knows the right direction but loose the eye on learnings with passing period of time. These people honestly, are amongst fools and majority of us fall in this category.
3- The third type being, the people who hold on and maintain the learnings for life. And these species are rare. Yeah, they are humans and we call them extraordinary humans.
This time let’s Retain to Maintain;
Some event happen, then you learn. Then you practice that learnings everyday. Then everything starts settling again. Everything starts falling in place again. Then you are eventually happy. Then you invite more growth in your life and get busy in building yourself. Then comes Stage 2 of some lesson. And then, You Break again. This time, not so rough, not so hard , but it does trigger you. And then, you question yourself, “Why did this trigger me”?
That’s exactly repeative cycle we create everytime. Everytime we wait for that trigger point to pinch. The question to ask yourself must be, “How did I let that trigger me again”? The answer is, “because you lost the consistency of the track of all the lessons you already know.”
Apart from professional life, this theory applies in self growth too; “PRACTICE MAKES THE MAN PERFECT!”
In chasing new, don’t forget to appreciate what you already hold;
We being in such fast life have forgot to take care of ourselves. Even after realisations, even after all healthy decisions we sometimes forget to implement. We are eager to seek new learnings. We want to be better then yesterday. In this huss of moving forward, we unbiasly fail to implement what we learnt yesterday.
“Transformation is not one time application. Transformation is Daily Practice.”
The natural beauty created by God, the beauty holding leisure inside out.
Along with all beautiful nature’s blessings we are surrounded with, women come next to it.
Those lips that smile holding the power to change the aura of surroundings also hold the power uttering such words sufficing emotional availability to others
Those eyes’ glittering holds the power to also hold glittering vision changing the world.
Those beautiful hands powerful enough to cook amazing meals, serve the family, raise kids but not any less to consent credentials documents
Those soft feet hard enough to stand strong as milestone
The melting heart holding lot of love and care, Sensitive enough but yet emotionally and mentally mature and aware
Being the power behind the creator of humanhood, woman is sources to many other blessings. Our goddess setting the best explanation to the same where Lordess Laxmi being the reason behind prosperity, Lordess Saraswati the source of knowledge and Lordess Durga being the symbol of destructor of evil.
More I started spending time with myself, More I started Understanding the world.
More I got connected to my thoughts, More I started Accepting the world.
When I implemented working on myself, More beautiful Consequences happened from world.
When I started realising self mistakes, More forgiveness and direction I seek from the world.
When I tuned up with my intentions, More I started recieving Rewards from the world;
Rewards were not always in hand to my wishes, but eventually they turn out to be Better then my wishes.
And this way I understood morale of my life;
“I AM THE WORLD”.
We are living life where there are too many situations from various important aspects of our living. Some good, some bad, some manageable and some unbearable. All being important portions, we get chaos with clarity. This is the point where we seek helping hand, and try to find that hand within the world. But in reality all we need is ourself. We need to look within ourself for clarity. That’s how, we are our own world. The world is within us.
Ah, who is not aware of these words in 21st century. Why are these words so common to hear? Why are they taken so lightly? Are these all light issues? Are these mental issues? Is it mental instability? So many questions, so many theories and so many man-made wrong theories too.
I would like to share my knowledge about all these based on my personal experiences and my practices to help myself. This article is written with main focus on the “solution to these problem”.
Now next question might be, why am I covering all these topics together? Is the solution same for all? Well, answer is Yes. Extreme anxiety leads to Depression and Depression might lead to PCOD/PCOS to women.
I would like to give brief about Depression and Anxiety first. See, generally these two terms are misunderstood and people consider them same but Depression is much more serious. That’s why there are depression pills to cure such state. Anxiety is the state where the sufferer feels low, under-confident, and they stay in negativity whenever they are all on themselves. But then when they are between people, or when they are between positive surroundings they start feeling good. So the state of negativity hits when they get alone and their mind gets free to think. That’s the reason such people are suggested to stay more between people or keep themselves busy.
While depression is negativity making home within person. Sufferer is living it for 24hrs. Sufferer has lost the clarity about illusion and reality. It is not mental illness. It is rather mental condition. It breaks sufferer to the extreme, to such extreme that sufferer might start believing himself as worst person on the planet and such thoughts lead to thoughts of suicide too. The thoughts as failure are at peak. It is such situation where the sufferer is in his own dark hole even while being at the most beautiful place and with most beautiful people.
When women go through such situations it leads to hormonal imbalance and harm which directly impacts their ovaries and that leads to PCOD/PCOS. There are few other reasons too leading to PCOD/PCOS like improper diet, heavy schedules and extreme work load but then, I personally believe that every disease gets the power to harm mainly because of disturbed mental health.
Before getting further towards the main stream, i.e the reason why I am writing this article, I would like to clarify that I am no medical professional nor do I have professional knowledge about this area. What all I am writing is completely based on my personal practices and few things what my doctors had guided me.
I will request all the sufferers to keep faith in themselves. Stay positive and please follow every point suggested below Ritually.
1- Stop treating yourself as sufferer;-
Stop treating yourself as patient. Do not keep on thinking about it. More you think, more it will impact. Just stay normal with yourself. Whenever you get thoughts about your situation, speak this to yourself, ”It’s Okay! It’s Alright! I am already doing well.” This will generate positivity within you and help you heal faster.
2- Practice spirituality:-
When I say spirituality, it means lot more then religious beliefs and practices. Spirituality means getting connected to oneself. For that, meditation is MUST. Start meditating. It is difficult in beginning but then once you start feeling the peace, calmness and powers of it, there will not be even a single day you’ll skip meditation. Self connection is the ultimate step to get correct vision of what is right and what is wrong.
Don’t know how to start meditating? See, there is no strict method for meditating, so don’t be scared or harsh on yourself. There are many amazing YouTube channels which have given in depth knowledge on meditation and they have also taught various ways to do it. Here are few links which I use to follow!
Along with that, also practice affirmations. Affirmations help to regain self confidence by shifting the focus on what you already have in your bucket. Here is my favorite link for practicing affirmations
3- Early to Bed Early to Rise keeps Man Healthy Wealthy and Wise;-
This habit is equally non-negotiable to other points stated. Sleep late to late by 10;30 pm. Practice it until it becomes habit. I know it is easy to say and difficult to do especially when your head is overcrowded with so many negative thoughts. I used to face this issue to the extend that I had almost turned to insomniac. I started listening to Shri Bhagwat Gita before going to bed and it did miracles to my sleeping schedule. So, read something helpful or listen to something from religion you follow or something spiritual when you try to sleep. It helps a lot.
Make your wakeup routine early. Wake up between 5-6am. Morning vibes are important to catch. Wake up, feel the morning beauty. Move in open area, look at sky, feel the cool air, watch sunrise. These little things make you feel fresh and beautiful.
*It is very important to take at least 7-8hrs of sleep.
4- Exercise and Yoga :-
Having PCOD/PCOS requires your body to exercise daily. Weight control becomes so important. Along with that, exercising generates positive chemicals in your brains and also your body feels energetic. Having too much negativity in our head drains all the energy without any kind of physical or mental hard-workor efforts. That’s the reason why depressed people tend to not leave their bed. So exercising benefits you both the ways; it generates positive thoughts and also make body very energetic. Exercise daily for at least 40minutes. I’ll strongly recommend to do Surya Namaskar also.
These are my personal preference links for exercising
5- Food;-
Someone rightly said, ”What you eat is What you Think.” There are some very strict points I’ll order (yes, I am ordering you) to follow for at least three months:
· SAY NO TO PACKET FOODS
· SAY NO TO ALL SUCH FOODS WHICH ARE NOT HOME COOKED FOOD
· SAY NO TO POTATOES
· SAY NO TO DEEP FRIED FOOD
· SAY NO TO WHITE FLOUR (MAIDA) AND ALSO WHOLE WHEAT IF POSSIBLE AS IT IS BIT HEAVY
· Do not eat anything from 7pm to 8am (i.e intermittent fasting going hand in hand with nature)
· Do fasting for atleast 2days a week , i.e have proper meal during lunch but have only fruits and milk for other parts of day
· Schedule your meal timings and eat at same time everyday.
*P.S- You can have Dark Chocolate. Now smile;)
Just a suggestion- Follow ayurvedic treatment for medication of PCOD/PCOS.
Counselors and Psychologists :- Take professional help . Yes, it is important. Take professional help please. I belong to country where people are yet not open to mental health care, so help of Counselors or Psychologist are treated as something severe. But it is pointless to focus on thoughts of society wait or their acceptance. They don’t even bother. You need help so go to good Counselor in your city and take the help. They listen to you just like friend and will help you open your vision so that you yourself start figuring out everything in life.
Do not wait for others to accept your problem as “problem”. Do not consider others when they weight your problem relating whether it is big or small. You’ll always get mixed responses. It is problem for you to the extent it is impacting your body and that is enough!
All these solutions are beneficial for all people suffering from any of the four groups. Last I would like to say, Stay Happy, you are already doing Better and one day, you will do Best.
Only quality that differ humans from other living species is power of thinking and understanding. When we talk about power of thinking, our personal emotions play big role. Humans are blessed to express emotions and bring change to the wrongs or those aspects of human-hood that requires changes. The five senses of humans if utilized properly can either make this world best place to live or worst place to survive. Our senses are our power and it is on our nature how we use the power; to design or to destruct.
Is it blessing or curse to be sensitive? One of the most basic and common mistake is people consider sensitive and weak similar. Sensitivity is vibe to feel others emotions. It is power to think and feel beyond your own emotional space.
Myth- If anyone tells me that I am wrong or I did some mistake, I feel bad. I get hurt easily. I am very sensitive person.
Fact- When I see someone in pain, I feel their pain. I can’t easily get over it. I am sensitive person.
Sensitive and weak are wrongly understood to be on same line. Well, sensitive person over feels everything. They over feel happiness, pain, anger, guilt, love, and every emotion. That’s the sign of excess of empathy. While weakness lacks basic empathy.
